Re: mod calculation
On Thursday, November 17, 2011 7:23:41 AM UTC-8, Roedy Green wrote:
On Tue, 15 Nov 2011 14:17:17 -0800, Gene Wirchenko <ge...@ocis.net>
wrote, quoted or indirectly quoted someone who said :
Why? Often, the fellow student does not know either.
True, but if he has a mental block against visiting a TA as I did,
what else can he do? There is apparently something stopping him from
asking the TA.
Children who have been abused, as I was, will take extreme measures to
avoid asking permission or approaching authority figures, even when
they know that logically the odds of something horrible happening as a
result are low.
The converse doesn't follow. Not everyone too foolish to ask the appropria=
te persons can claim it's because of a bad childhood. And not everyone who=
was abused as a child hesitates to ask a T.A. for help with a school assig=
nment.
Rationality is a hallmark of engineering behavior. Sometimes the rational =
act is to go to a person with the answers and ask your question. If you ca=
n't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.
Both those activities are dangerous for the child, and the child
hardwires in avoidance.
If you want to succeed in life, you cannot live as a prisoner of your past.=
When a syndrome, obsession, addiction or phobia interferes with your abil=
ity to function, get professional help. The good news is that you can achi=
eve satisfaction and happiness even with such handicaps.
I care, Roedy.
--
Lew